Mark’s Gospel worksheet answers for the person with an out of control child that isn’t really a child, but rather, a young adult that has outgrown their teen years. They are living their first years and now they have too many responsibilities.
Although it may seem as if your teen is an out of control young adult, it isn’t necessarily so. The next to last thing that you want to do is to assume that they are out of control. Here are a few things that you can do as a parent to help them see the truth about their situation.
If your teenager has moved on to day cares or to any other area of life, you can get them to discuss it with you as often as you can. As they age, you will find that they are in many different situations in which you will want to catch up with them.
Try to establish and keep a schedule that you will be able to be there as often as they are in the midst of being in school, but make sure that you set a time in which you can be with them all the time. This gives them a sense of security as they approach their maturity. Also, it is a good idea to visit them periodically as you see them around town, etc.
Perhaps they will notice that you are becoming increasingly critical of them, but at least they will have to feel the fact that you are concerned about their well-being. At times, it is understandable that they would be concerned about you are trying to control their lives. Be patient, let them know that you are just being critical.
More than likely, if your teenager is just as concerned about them being out of control as you are, then they are probably correct. If they are in situations where they are having trouble with drug use, then it makes sense that they are developing substance-abuse issues. You should talk to them about this but just realize that this is something that you should not get into as you don’t know what is best for them.
It may be that they are feeling as though they are trying to fit in with wild teens on the streets. Try to steer them away from this by getting them involved in some type of group or ministry.
Just keep in mind that when you hear someone say that they have been out of control, that they really mean that they have grown up too quickly and are now out of control with the responsibilities that they have. You can talk to them about how to deal with this without having to assume that they have a bad attitude.